Actually, letting the first stage gather more vertical velocity would not impair it's reuse much, the resulting steeper trajectory would just mean that parachute timing has to be modified, so that the parachutes don't need to be reinforced.
I'm not an aerospace professional but suspect that things might not be as
easy and as-a
pogee-free-of-constraints as just changing the pitch program for the AresI first stage (also when having in consideration other eventual first stage recovery considerations for this specific launcher configuration, some CEV abort scenarios, etc). Recovering the 5 segment SRB used on AresI might not be as 'easy' as recovering current SRB used in STS or when comparing with 5 segment SRB being used in heavy lifter configurations, but again, I'm not an aerospace engineer. As a side note, loosing recoverability might also be additionally interpreted - in some circles - as loosing the recovery system mass itself.
Anyway, until word in contrary, AresI first stage is to be recovered and reused for ISS and Exploration Missions.
EDIT: BTW, you can also call the 10% NASA bonus. I have the impression that NASAs development teams of the Ares I and the Orion CEV are not cooperating well. There seems to be a tiny lag behind Orion CEV changes and when the Ares I is adapted to the new payload demands.
About the margins: AresI + Orion should, in theory, have their own margins (and also margins as a system). Adding 10% on top of that, even if when making a first order implementation / simulation of the rocket equation and if using data derived from public sources might be more than a bonus. Of course this is just my opinion and, in the end, it is francisdrake's decision to add any thrust / ISP, etc margin, if wanting to improve the playability in Orbiter.
Regarding the coordination of work between AresI and Orion teams: will not comment unless to say that the teams are doing their best under the configuration constraints they are given to work with. This also to say that when making a simulation / implementation in Orbiter the best should probably be to freeze such implementation for a given set of AresI-Orion assumptions (design development review parameters) and/or else make coherent extrapolations for masses, engine specs, payload requirements, mission procedures, etc based on latest known data (instead of somehow applying artificial factors, which might not be needed, for given specific sets of those assumptions).
António
PS: sorry Franz, for the boring talk, will be in 'away mode' now (might one day - not sure when - send updated AresI meshes in your way or else might release something at OHM and then, if wanting, feel free to extract the 3D or performance, etc updates to your addon, like the last time
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