Question What did I do wrong?

[Krys]

What Garyw said.

Never say 'brb' when someone is asking for help. Doesn't matter who it is, if someone is distressed, you help.

Now from a teenage girls pov - he's not interested, obviously doesn't care *runs off and cries or calls her friend and cries*

From a woman's pov - He's having internet issues, give up and chat about it tomorrow.

That's how i'd see it...though to be fair i never went with the teenage girl's point of view...i get told i'm old for my age

 

[Urwumpe]

And never try and get dates with IM or facebook- it oozes fear.

It isn't that bad, if you remember that internet is only a communication channel and not even close to reality. What counts is the offline - you can find dates over the internet, but you can't replace dates or relationship by internet. It doesn't work.

But as communication medium, the internet isn't also dangerous, if you know it's limitations. Unless you have as good working "turing test", you can't even be sure that the person you chat with is really female or good-looking or likes Geeks. You can only be sure if you see the same person offline. It is a lot harder to cheat in the real world.

 

[TMac3000]

What did you do wrong? Short answer: you didn't. She did. If a gal is going to act that immature over you being away for one little second, you don't need her anyway. Believe me, I just got out of a relationship with a woman like that.

I will agree with the others on some points, though. Technology can sometimes be too much of a good thing. If you are talking to the guys here on OF, the internet is fine. But if you are trying to carry on a romance, keep it either face-to-face or on the phone.

Good luck with your future romantic endeavors Or at least I hope you have better luck than I did:embarrassed:

 

[jedidia]

Well, let's be honest here - I wouldn't like it if Krys and I had an argument and she posted it on a forum asking for advice.

well, sure, but that's problems. I was talking about "problems". :lol: I completely agree that nobody, no matter what gender, is thrilled when you're opening your private arguments for public discussion. However, women seem to have that odd expectation that their man has to figure them out all by himself... until after a year or so of relationship they finally accept that it's definitaly not going to happen.

example: when my wife talks about odd behaviour on my part with friends, I find it mostly funny and kind of sweet. The other way around is not so much apreciated. Could just be me and her though, I'm not much expierienced with different women (nor do I wish to be )

Many arguments come from simple misunderstandings rather than a deliberate attempt to cause harm and if you can talk about it

ALL of the arguments usually come from simple missunderstandings (or different habits. That's a big point of argument too :lol. If a partner does a deliberate attempt at hurting the other their relationship is in some really *deep* trouble.

 

[Krys]

However, many women have that odd expectation that their man has to figure them out all by himself... until after a year or so of relationship they finally accept that it's definitaly not going to happen.

If we are playing the sexist card: I'd say many men are just obtuse and given to not thinking at all...

Back on topic - She was annoyed that he wasn't responding... If you were stressed out about a friend, wouldn't you get annoyed if the person you were talking to stopped responding? Whomsoever told me no, I'd call a liar.

 

[T.Neo]

Now from a teenage girls pov - he's not interested, obviously doesn't care *runs off and cries or calls her friend and cries*

From a woman's pov - He's having internet issues, give up and chat about it tomorrow.

There's your answer.

And partly the answer to why I never bothered with relationships in my teen years.

 

[Dambuster]

I haven't read the whole thread yet, but have you tried messaging her back and apologising (even if you think you did nothing wrong)?

 

[Arrowstar]

Well, sometimes you have to apologize for your technology in the same way that a parent has to apologize for their child. And I would call her versus messaging, if for no other reason than you do not want a repeat of last time.

 

[earthorbit]

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[jedidia]

If we are playing the sexist card

Appologies, that was not my intent. It's just my expirience, and one I heared repeated by many men, and many women, so I guess it's not just me...

I'd say many men are just obtuse and given to not thinking at all...

Which brings us to this. I use to think quite a lot. However, men and women do think along different lines (I hope I'm not sounding sexistic again... at least I have my wives consent in this) and it is tough for a man to make sense of a women when he ain't got no expirience. The other way around would be similiar, I imagine.

If you were stressed out about a friend, wouldn't you get annoyed if the person you were talking to stopped responding? Whomsoever told me no, I'd call a liar.

Well, the problem is not that one gets annoyed... the problem is the unreasonable response of not being there anymore ten seconds later and instead indulging in self pitty. That, however, Is majorly a property of age, I'd say, (allthough I think tennage girls are more prone to that behaviour then boys... they make other kinds of trouble). At least I hope there wouldn't be much mature women that would react that way. Mine wouldn't, at least, though she would definitaly let me know that I messed up...

 

[TSPenguin]

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