That isn't the point at all. The human body is a good shape, but it isn't nearly the only shape for developing tool-use.
For example, the dinosauroid (the plausible one, not the nonsense one) already has all the traits you describe, and would get along with developing technology perfectly fine (more or less- they'll certainly have a lot of ergonomic differences from humans).
Now, a dinosaur has three fingers on each hand, not our five, is digitigrade, has pointed recurved teeth instead of our crushing molars, it lacks external ears, and posesses feathers instead of hair. And most importantly, its spine is held horizontally and it uses a tail to balance (the dinosauroid study used the justification of a larger brain motivating a more erect posture, but there are many carnivorous dinosaurs with quite massive heads that hold a balance-erect posture).
And this dinosaur shares a common ancestor with us. There's nothing saying an alien species would have even those features.
That doesn't mean they'll be a pile of goo, not at all... they will likely share many traits with us, limbs, visual senses, filamentous insulation, a brain located near the front of the organism... but they don't have to resemble a human.
Not only are humans made up of intrinsic traits developed from the whim of evolution half a billion years ago, but we are also full of things that were unique solutions to pretty special problems. Like our upright stance, for example. Made perfect sense for an ape, but for a dinosaur, it is really silly, because a solution already exists.
If you took a planet, and you seeded it with a few plants and a single species of chiton, and you left it alone to evolve for 500 million years, the sapient species you could find- even if it was bipedal and had an erect stance, like a human- it would probably look nothing like us.
And arguing that only a human body can lead to an advanced civilisation is pretty silly, it's a bioconservativism with no scientific backing... I would say that the only preventative factors, would occur when an organism lacks manipulators (like dolphins) has only partial manipulative ability (like birds and elephants) or is very bulky (like elephants). And even then it might not be a good idea to discount the latter two entirely, given enough ingenuity.
I guess it also roots in a lack of imagination, sadly there is a big misconception that what has happened on Earth is the only way, or the best way... when just looking at a small portion of Earth's biodiversity, as well as its history and how it came to be, one can very easily understand the variability of life.