Here's a couple tips for the scram ascent, based on the method given in the XR manual.
1. At the appropriate time (about 300 seconds TN in align planes MFD for a trip to ISS or Mir, or as directed by another launch aid such as LaunchMFD, IMFD, etc) ensure that elevator trim is neutral and engage full throttle (main engines). When you hear the "Rotate" call-out pull back on the stick. Once you hear "Wheels up" reduce throttle to maintain about 200 m/s velocity and stow landing gear. Turn to your desired heading - maintaining subsonic speeds (around 200 m/s works very well).
2. Once heading alignment is attained, pull back on the stick and increase throttle. Your goal here is to attain a pitch (around 70 degrees, depending on vessel mass) that allows you to use full throttle while maintaining little or no VACC (in other words, maintain speed, a slow increase to 250 m/s is OK).
3. At 10k altitude, engage half to three quarters (nose) downward elevator trim. The exact setting will vary with load-out. You will typically break the sound barrier at around 15k alt. The goal here is to achieve zero VS (level flight) at 24k altitude. Use elevator trim to maintain altitude while you gain speed.
4. At mach 3.5, engage full scram thrust, reduce main engines to maintain about 5 m/s ACC until the scrams can maintain a positive ACC on their own.
5. Use elevator trim to maintain about 150 m/s VS until 30 k alt, then slowly reduce VS to about 70 to 100 m/s. Watch hull temps - you want a bit over 1000 degrees at the nose.
6. When the scrams overheat and no longer provide positive ACC, shut them down, close the scram doors, then engage main engines until a suitible apoapsis is established. Give yourself an extra 5k to account for losses from aerodynamic drag and gravity. MECO should be about 70k -80k altitude. Coast up to Apo and circularize.
I usually get the XR - 2 (at default settings - with CHM and cargo - no additional fuel) into a 205k parking orbit with 5 - 6% scram fuel remaining, and about 65% main fuel remaining.