long distance relationship

[T.Neo]

Consider yourself lucky that you have any sort of relationship.

 

[eveningsky339]

I was in a long distance relationship for years. In many ways, it was hard-- it really makes communication more difficult when one cannot see body language-- but it worked.

And I married her.

 

[Urwumpe]

I am still in a practically long-distance relationship. It is only 1 hour to Berlin and 2 hours with all public transport, but the price tag and university means I can't get to Berlin every weekend.

It works, but really: A long distance relationship is only working, if it has a foreseeable end of the long distance. If you plan to see her in digital form for years and maybe visit her once every blue moon until you are both old enough for moving to a single place, forget it, it is not worth the trouble. Long-distance relationships need a common goal to work towards. They are definitely not cool, they are annoying and psychological agony.

 

[halcyon]

Long distance relations CAN work.
People that say they NEVER work haven't had it work for THEM. Doesn't mean it can't work for someone else.

And as I say that, I'm currently in a long distance relationship that's been going on for over two years.
At first it was just Skype/voice over internet for the first two years. We really became internet pen pals I guess you could say, but with a lot more emotional attachment and feelings towards each other.

Just this past November, we decided to meet. I live in Chicago and she lives in Montreal, Quebec Canada. I went there, spent a week with her for her birthday, and it was one of the greatest times of my life.
After that week, it really solidifed our relationship to something more concrete and real, and since November I've been back 3 times.

Let me point something out also, you are NOT dating someone if you haven't met them yet. I don't care if you spend 10 years talking to someone. Until you MEET, you haven't experienced everything that person is about. Meeting is what makes or breaks the deal. Until you've done that, it's not official.
If you've already put time into this, don't worry about meeting her. You don't have to "ask her out"....I think by the time you both get together, it'll either click between you two or it won't, but you don't need to ask for it. It'll just happen if it does.

Good luck to you.

 

[John_L]

I am very hesitant about personal relationships on SL, its one thing to "role play" since thats primarily what its for...

No, it's not "primarily" what it's for. I've been involved in SL for 3 years, and have never, and never plan to, role play. There is no one specific primary reason for SL, it's for whatever one makes of it. Personally, I'm a content creator, and I explore and socialize a bit too. In recent times, I've also taken an active roll in improving the Second Life experience by attending office hour meetings with Lindens (employees), and I've always had a tendency to seek out new residents and help acclimate them to the client software and ins and outs of SL. SL has many purposes from business to gaming and any and everything in between (including 'role playing'), but role play is merely a part of, not the primary reason for, Second Life.

 

[JamesG]

Thats what you use it for and your definition of "role play". I'm not talking about the WOW type "roleplaying" but the assumption of personnas and portraying yourself as something other than your actual RL. So when 12 year old boy uses a Pamela Anderson-like avatar and flirts thats as much as role play as any other. And you have to agree that the majority of the popularity of SL is this kind of behavior, not creating objects and scripting.

 

[TSPenguin]

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