Heh, the mystery of womankind!
This 'friend trap', in my opinion, is a myth. For a start, if you're after a relationship, why would you start seeing someone who you wouldn't otherwise be friends with? You could also look at it this way; if you try to get closer to her and end up 'just friends' then she's already given you an answer in a way, and you've gained a friend - which is not exactly a bad thing (if for no other reason, than she will have other female friends...who may be single )? I was friends for ages with one girl with no thought of anything more at first, but gradually we got closer and closer till eventually it was obvious we had something more and have ended up seeing each other, and I think we're much the better for it.
As for how to attract the female of the species, there isn't any magical formula for success, no matter what people say. I know during training we used to all go out of a night as a group and beforehand everyone would have their own 'guaranteed to work' trapping secret, ranging from dodgy pick-up lines, equally dodgy scents, and even one guy who had a special stare which he claimed to work (even if it did look like he was having a pineapple inserted somewhere). Point is, the guys who actually did trap the most were the ones who just went out to have a few beers and a laugh with the guys.
Reference the initial post, don't feel like you *should* be in a relationship or you are somehow lesser if you aren't. If you haven't got the time to put in, or aren't willing to put in the effort required to keep a relationship going then there isn't much point. Enjoy being single, and make the most of not having to worry about somebody else and how what you do will affect them - you will miss it one day!
Alternatively, if it's just a quick squeeze you're after, I did meet one guy (unsurprisingly it turned out he was a submariner) who would go round every girl he could find in a club and ask them if they'd sleep with him. Eventually, after a good few slaps, he'd always find one who would say yes!
This 'friend trap', in my opinion, is a myth. For a start, if you're after a relationship, why would you start seeing someone who you wouldn't otherwise be friends with? You could also look at it this way; if you try to get closer to her and end up 'just friends' then she's already given you an answer in a way, and you've gained a friend - which is not exactly a bad thing (if for no other reason, than she will have other female friends...who may be single )? I was friends for ages with one girl with no thought of anything more at first, but gradually we got closer and closer till eventually it was obvious we had something more and have ended up seeing each other, and I think we're much the better for it.
As for how to attract the female of the species, there isn't any magical formula for success, no matter what people say. I know during training we used to all go out of a night as a group and beforehand everyone would have their own 'guaranteed to work' trapping secret, ranging from dodgy pick-up lines, equally dodgy scents, and even one guy who had a special stare which he claimed to work (even if it did look like he was having a pineapple inserted somewhere). Point is, the guys who actually did trap the most were the ones who just went out to have a few beers and a laugh with the guys.
Reference the initial post, don't feel like you *should* be in a relationship or you are somehow lesser if you aren't. If you haven't got the time to put in, or aren't willing to put in the effort required to keep a relationship going then there isn't much point. Enjoy being single, and make the most of not having to worry about somebody else and how what you do will affect them - you will miss it one day!
Alternatively, if it's just a quick squeeze you're after, I did meet one guy (unsurprisingly it turned out he was a submariner) who would go round every girl he could find in a club and ask them if they'd sleep with him. Eventually, after a good few slaps, he'd always find one who would say yes!